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Poster: William Tell Date: Oct 1, 2010 8:41am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Why do you guys fight so much?

Hey Charlie--that's the $64 question, eh? We have been talking about it for the five yrs or so I've been coming around.

First, the "trolls" are one thing; ie, those that arrive to stir up matters, even if they, ironically, like the DEAD. [BTW we "early era" types with some smugness note that the trolls generally prefer the 80s & 90s...hmmm, anyone else notice this?] They just need to be ignored, but it's hard to keep to that tactic. We try.

Second, the regulars that seem to fight are just that; CLIFF, by his own admission, "likes to push buttons". But, in general, his kind-hearted nature shows through on many occasions. Likewise, Rob might seem a bit touchy at times, but for anyone that's been around long enough, they know there's a heart of gold under that gruff exterior (and a damn find writer too!).

So, much of what passes for "fighting" is in fact mostly humor, mis-understandings, old friends working out differences, etc. EG, any number of folks have mistaken exchanges between myself and Rob as "fights" when it's nothing more than a classic "discussion" one might find in one's own home...we have strong wills, opinions, views, etc., and we are easily frustrated when others mis-understand, or worse, at least in my case, don't realize how absolutely indefensible a view other than the one I espouse, really is (har, but true to a point). I have eventually become "friends" when many a poster that our first 10 exchanges would've been classified as dog-fights (NC, BD2, ClCity, etc., etc., etc.). Dire doesn't really count cause he's just a bottom dwelling butt munch.

So, IMHO, there is much less "real fighting" here than meets the eye, trolls aside. And it clearly is something we enjoy, or the regulars wouldn't have been here so long and so consistently.

My Irish ancestors fought like cats and dogs but I wouldn't have missed those family gatherings for the world.

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Poster: SomeDarkHollow Date: Oct 1, 2010 10:57am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Tokin' with Tolkein

Yeah, we are somewhat of a dysfunctional family 'round here, but most of us mean nothing but the best. Just like in the parking lot of old there were mostly good natured people who were kind and generous. There were really no strangers back then. But there were always a few Buzz Killingtons scattered about, even way back when. And the same holds true here. The majority of these folks here come to share stories, knowledge and engage in good natured ribbing along the way. Yes the negative ones sometimes garner too much attention, but such is life. We always seem to weather these storms and quickly get back on track. Like you and others have said all along: the music is what keeps us coming back.

3 shows for the tweeking heads under the sky,
7 for the taper lords in their hall of stoners,
9 for local narcs doomed to die,
1 for the Fat Man on his dark throne.
In the land of the Parking Lot where the hacky sacks fly,
One show to rule them all, one show to find them,
One show to bring them all and in the arena bind them
In the land of the Parking Lot where the hacky sacks fly.

This post was modified by SomeDarkHollow on 2010-10-01 17:57:45

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Poster: Mandojammer Date: Oct 1, 2010 9:30am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Why do you guys fight so much?

SDH, seeing as how I am a huge Tolkien geek, I gotta tell ya, that was magnificent.

So amidst all the squabbling and yammering, instead of Frodo's plaintive "I will pick the show" should it be....

I need more shows?

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Poster: unclejohn52 Date: Oct 1, 2010 9:44am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Why do you guys fight so much?

Amen! Here in GD Middle Earth, we've got our orcs, hobbits, elves, a few wizards and an occasional cave troll. The wine flows, the music is poured upon us and we sup from the table.

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Poster: Hal R Date: Oct 1, 2010 11:21am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Tokin' with Tolkein

SDH, love what you wrote. Will tape it on the side of my new hard drive.

Do not meddle in the affairs of wizards, for they are subtle and quick to anger.
J. R. R. Tolkien

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Poster: CharlieMiller Date: Oct 1, 2010 8:57am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Why do you guys fight so much?

I do notice that it is not as bad as it used to be, which is why I started coming around sharing music. As for pushing buttons, look at my facebook page. I describe myself as "Nice guy but a bit of a trouble maker :)"

This post was modified by CharlieMiller on 2010-10-01 15:57:27